Expensive E. Jean: What’s the best way to go previous rejection, regardless of whether it’s position rejection or intimate rejection? The standard wisdom is to continue being resolute and “try, try out again,” but I’ve been performing that with no luck. What should I do?—Human Repellent

Human, My Heliotrope: I know far more about rejection than any information columnist of my fat and age in America. Through my lifestyle, when rebuffed, I’ve stood up, rushed off, and bunged my heart all above again. I have jolly effectively been turned down about 95 per cent of the time. Why so often? I sulked not a second. Alternatively of rolling on the floor, clutching my head and sulking, I’d yodel beneficial hogwash like “Rejection makes me stronger” and “Rejection would make me smarter,” totter out, and attempt all over again. This is silly. The important to turning all-around a brush-off (professional or amatory) is to figure out the strategies one has built an ass of oneself, and then draw up a program to keep away from doing the exact dumb matters once more. This is where by the sulk arrives in. A sulk heightens unfavorable emotions. Negativity brings significant thinking. Critical contemplating increases outcomes. Do it, Miss out on Human!

This letter is from the Ask E. Jean Archive, 1993-2017. Ship inquiries to E. Jean at E.Jean@AskEJean.com.

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